Wednesday, 2 November 2011

Will a woman be rewarded for her work in the home even if she does not intend to seek reward?

If a woman works in her house without intending to seek reward for her work with Allaah, will she be rewarded for her work or not?.

Praise be to Allaah.
A woman’s work in the home is important work in which she helps to spread love and mercy in her home, and she plays a major role in raising her children and helps her husband in his work, da’wah and pursuit of knowledge. 
In this regard, this work is like all other kinds of work: a woman will not be rewarded for it unless her intention in doing it is sincerely for the sake of Allaah alone. 
There follow some texts which support this view, as well as some of the comments of the scholars.
 1 – al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) included in Kitaab al-Eemaan (the Book of Faith) a chapter in which he listed shar’i duties, which included seeking reward for doing them. 
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  
“Chapter: what was narrated about actions being but by intentions, and every person will have but that which he intended. This includes faith, wudoo’, prayer, zakaah, Hajj, fasting and other rulings. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Each one does according to Shakilatihi (i.e. his way or his religion or his intentions)” [al-Isra’ 17:84]. A man may seek the reward of charity for his spending on his family. And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “But jihad and good intentions.” 
Saheeh al-Bukhaari (1/29), Kitaab al-Eemaan. 
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  
The words “Chapter: what has been narrated…” mean: a chapter which explains what has been narrated as evidence that shar’i actions are judged according to intention. 
Fath al-Baari (1/135, 136) 
2 – It was narrated that Abu Mas’ood al-Badri (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a Muslim spends on his family, seeking reward for that with Allaah, then it will an act of charity on his part.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (55), Muslim (1002). 
Spending on his wife and children is a man’s shar’i duty, but he will not be rewarded for it unless he seeks reward thereby. 
Al-Qurtubi said: 
The apparent meaning is that the reward for spending on them can only be attained by intending to draw closer to Allaah, whether it is obligatory or permissible, and this implies that whoever does not intend to draw closer to Allaah will not be rewarded, but he has discharged his duty in the case of obligatory spending. 
Fath al-Baari (1/136) 
Ibn Hajar said: 
It may be understood from this that the reward cannot be attained by doing the deed unless it is also accompanied by the intention. 
Al-Tabari said: spending on one's family is obligatory, and he will be rewarded for what he gives according to his intention. There is no contradiction between its being obligatory and its being called charity, rather it is better than voluntary charity. 
Fath al-Baari (9/498) 
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
Seeking reward thereby means seeking the Countenance of Allaah thereby. That does not include whatever he spends absent-mindedly (i.e., heedless of the intention and without intending to seek reward thereby). Rather this refers to the one who seeks reward. The way to seek reward is to spend it with the intention of fulfilling the duty of spending and kind treatment that has been enjoined upon him. 
Sharh Muslim (7/88, 89). 
3 – It was narrated from Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You will never spend anything, seeking thereby the Countenance of Allaah, but you will be rewarded for it, even what you put in your wife’s mouth.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (56) and Muslim (1628). 
Ibn al-Haaj al-Maaliki (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
He should not neglect to give his wife a morsel or two, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “even a morsel that he puts in his wife’s mouth.” He will earn reward even though there is some pleasure for him in putting a morsel in his wife’s mouth, but he should seek reward in all of that, i.e., in bringing the food and in giving it to her. 
Al-Madkhal (1/224). 
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
You will never spend anything, seeking thereby the reward of Allaah, but you will be rewarded for it. The attainment of reward is dependent upon that, i.e., on seeking the Countenance of Allaah. This is what matters. 
Fath al-Baari (5/367). 
Conclusion: 
A woman will be rewarded for her work in the house if she seeks reward with Allaah for that, and is sincere in her intention. 
And Allaah knows best.

Ruling on participating in a tribal co-op

My relatives have formed a co-op, in which all the family members are taking part. This is based on co-operation between them, whereby if any family member has a problem with another family, they will resolve the problem and reconcile between the two parties. They also have a monthly meeting in the house of one of the members (in turn) where they meet and greet one another and hear one another’s news and so on. They take a sum of money each month from each person who participates in this co-op if the participant is working, and the money is kept by the treasurer. This money is spent in the following ways: 
1- Giving loans to family members who need them, to be repaid in installments.
2- Help in paying diyah (blood money) or paying compensation to any member of another family who has been run over by a family member or paying compensation for any injury cause by a family member.
3- Paying zakaah on this money to needy family members.
4- The co-op also makes lunch after the burial of any family member who dies, and invites those who were at the graveyard to eat, on the grounds that there are those among them who have come from far away etc.
 My question is: what is the ruling on taking part in this co-op? Is it regarded as cooperating in righteousness and piety? What is the ruling on making food for the family of the deceased? Do you advise us to take part in it if it is clear that making food for the family of the deceased in this manner is haraam but they do not accept my advice to stop doing this – knowing that my relatives have started to look at me with suspicion because I have withdrawn from it until I find out the shar’i ruling? If such co-ops are not permissible, then what do you advise so that that family members can stand together and be united and not separated?.

Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly: 
The co-ops in which the members of a tribe or family come together is something that Islamically acceptable in principle, and it is hoped that there is much goodness in them so long as they are free of things that are forbidden in Islam. 
Allaah has commanded us to co-operate in righteousness and piety, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Help you one another in Al‑Birr and At‑Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression”
[al-Maa’idah 5:2] 
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) praised the Ash’aris – who were a tribe from Yemen – who, if their food was little, whether they were travelling or not, each one of them would bring what he had, then they would share it out amongst themselves. 
It was narrated that Abu Moosa (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When the food of the Ash’aris ran short during military campaigns or if their food supplies ran low in Madeenah, they would gather what they had in a single cloth, then share it out equally amongst themselves by measuring it with a bowl; they are of me and I am of them.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2384; Muslim, 2500. 
Al-Nawawi said: 
This hadeeth points to the virtue of the Ash’aris and the virtue of selflessness and helping one another, and the virtue of combining provisions when travelling, and the virtue of collecting them in something when they are few when not travelling, then sharing them out. End quote. 
Sharh Muslim, 16/62 
The co-operative funds which are established by tribes and families, which are collected from their members, then spent on the needy according to the conditions that have been stipulated, are something that is prescribed in Islam and it is similar to what the Ash’aris did, but this is an arrangement made before calamity happens, so that they may co-operate to solve he problem and reduce the hardship of or the one who has been afflicted. 
Those who participate in it should have the intention of co-operating, not of benefiting and making a profit. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen was asked about one of these schemes and he replied: 
I have studied the clauses of the scheme and I did not see anything to suggest that it should not be set up, if the intention of the participant is to co-operate and not to receive compensation or benefits from the funds, because it is based on co-operation which is a kind of ihsaan, whereas if it is based on receiving compensation and benefits it is a kind of gambling. 
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (18/183). 
Among the haraam things which the members of these co-ops may fall into is the jaahili feelings of tribal attachment to their lineage or language, and there may be haraam things in their gatherings such as smoking or listening to music, for example, or they may help someone who is sinning in committing that sin, or they may support a wrongdoer merely because he is related to them. Similarly the money that is collected should not be invested in haraam projects or in banks. As for supporting one who has been wronged or one who is in need or who has been harmed as the result of an accident or sickness, or helping to pay diyah in the case of mistaken killing or manslaughter, or helping single people to get married and other such good deeds, this is something for which they deserve to be commended and applauded. 
Secondly: 
With regard to making food for funerals, what is prescribed is for the relatives and neighbours of the deceased person’s family to make food for the family of the deceased, because there has come to them something that will distract them from preparing food for themselves. 
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Ja’far (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When news of the death of Ja’far came, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Make food for the family of Ja’far, for there has come to them that which is keeping them busy.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 3132; al-Tirmidhi, 998; Ibn Maajah, 1610; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 
Al-Mubaarakfoori said: 
What this means is there has come to them grief which will keep them from preparing food for themselves, because they are too distressed to think about food. Al-Teebi said: This indicates that it is mustahabb for relatives and neighbours to prepare food for the family of the deceased. End quote. Ibn al-‘Arabi said in al-‘Aaridah: this hadeeth sets out the guidelines with regard to co-oepration at times of need. End quote. 
Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi, 4/67. 
What is forbidden is for the family of the deceased to make food for those who come to offer condolences, because Jareer ibn ‘Abd-Allaah al-Bajali (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “We used to regard gathering with the family of the deceased and making food after the burial as a kind of wailing for the dead.” Narrated by Ahmad, 6866; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz. 
But if there is a need for that, such as if some people have come from far away to offer condolences, then there is nothing wrong with making food for them, so long as that is done only as much as is necessary, and there is no exaggeration or excess involved, and it is done only for the travellers, and not everyone who comes to the funeral is invited, as some people do. 
Ibn Qudaamah said in al-Mughni (3/496): 
With regard to the family of the deceased making food for the people, this is makrooh, because it is adding to their hardship, and it is akin to what the people of the Jaahiliyyah did. 
But if there is a need for that, it is permissible. Some people may have come to attend the funeral from distant towns, and they stay with them, in which they have no choice but to show them hospitality. 
Shaykh Ibn Baaz said: 
The family of the deceased do not have to make food for people, but if they make food for themselves or for guests who are staying with them, there is nothing wrong with that. End quote. 
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz, 13/392. 
Thirdly: 
You said in your question that zakaah is paid on the money that has been collected to the needy family members. But no zakaah is due on this money. Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen was asked about a similar scheme and paying zakaah on its funds, and he replied: 
No zakaah is due on these funds, because they are not owned by the participants, so there is no specific owner, and there is no zakaah on anything that does not have a specific owner. End quote. 
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 18/184 
The people of knowledge and righteousness have to take part in these co-ops so that they can advise people and warn them against falling into sin, and help them in righteousness and piety.
 And Allaah knows best.

Enthusiasm when one first repents, followed by slackening off

When a person repents, he makes a vigorous start and says, “The Shaytaan is telling me to slow down,” so he does more acts of worship. Then his enthusiasm cools down, and he says, “Allaah does not burden any person beyond his scope,” and his acts of worship become less until he goes back to the way he was.
 My question: What advice can you give? Should he make a vigorous start, or take a gradual approach until it is established and then add more after a while, or should he follow the saying, “When your wind blows, then make the most of it”?.

Praise be to Allaah.
The blessing of guidance and repentance is one of the greatest blessings that Allaah can bestow upon the Muslim, whereby he changes himself for the better in ways that will bring him closer to Allaah, may He be exalted. Usually the person who has repented starts to do acts of worship in an enthusiastic manner, seeking thereby to make up for what he missed out on during the time that he spent in sin and misguidance. 
This is something natural that happens to everyone who is sincere in his repentance. This was mentioned by our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who also described the cooling off and reduction of enthusiasm that comes after that. This is also something natural, but the danger in the case of one who has repented is that this loss of enthusiasm may lead to him going back to the way he was. Hence it is essential to pay attention to this matter. If the one who repents finds his enthusiasm waning, he must adopt a moderate approach and adhere to the Sunnah so that he can preserve his capital, then he can start again with energy and strength, because starting from the middle is better than starting from zero. 
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every deed has a period of enthusiasm, and every period of enthusiasm is followed by a slackening off. If a person’s enthusiasm is for my Sunnah, then he has succeeded, but whoever chooses something else when he slackens off is doomed.”
Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh (1/187); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb, 56. 
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every deed has a period of enthusiasm, and every period of enthusiasm is followed by a slackening off. If a person is moderate and avoids extremes, then you may have hope for him, but if fingers are pointed at him, then do not count him as anything.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2453; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb, 57. 
Al-Mubaarakfoori (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
“Every deed has a period of enthusiasm” means, enthusiasm and energy for doing a thing, whether it is for good or evil. 
“and every period of enthusiasm is followed by a slackening off” means, one becomes tired, weak and lethargic 
“If a person is moderate and avoids extremes” means, if he controls his enthusiasm and avoids the extremes of excess and negligence when his enthusiasm wanes. 
“then you may have hope for him” means, there is the hope that he will succeed, for he can continue to adhere to something moderate, and the most beloved of deeds to Allaah are those which are done consistently. 
“but if fingers are pointed at him” means, he is striving hard in order to become famous for his worship and asceticism, so that he will be famous and people will point at him. 
“then do not count him as anything” means, do not think of him as special or regard him as one of the righteous, for he is showing off. He did not say, “Do not have any hope for him,” because he has already fallen and he cannot catch up with what he has missed. 
Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi, 7/126 
In order for the Muslim to avoid either extreme, he must be moderate and not go to extremes in doing acts of worship and obedience lest he get bored and give it up, and he should not refrain from doing them out of laziness and carelessness lest he gets used to that and never goes back to worship. Both attitudes are wrong, but the one who follows a middle path is following the right path, and whoever follows the right path will attain that which Allaah loves and is pleased with. 
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No one of you will be saved by his deeds.” They said: Not even you, O Messenger of Allaah? He said: “Not even me, unless Allaah bestows mercy upon me. So do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately, and worship Allaah in the forenoon and in the afternoon and during a part of the night, and always adopt a moderate course whereby you will reach your target (Paradise).”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6098 
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  
“So do good deeds” means, strive to do what is right. 
“moderately” means, do not go to extremes in worship, lest you become tired and give up, and thus fall short. 
This hadeeth indicates that we are encouraged to be gentle and moderate in worship; the words used liken worship to walking at various times of day and night, with the aim of reaching one's abode, namely Paradise. 
“Always adopt a moderate course” means adhere to the middle way. The literal translation would be, “Moderation, moderation”; the word is repeated for emphasis. 
Fath al-Baari, 11/297 
Conclusion: We invite you to ponder the ahaadeeth quoted above and think about what they mean. Remember that the one who repents should be grateful, and the best way of showing gratitude is to persist in repentance, which means persisting in worship. Remember that “The dearest of actions to Allaah is that which is done regularly, even if it is small.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim. So do not start in an overenthusiastic way and then stop completely; rather be moderate in worship. This is something that it is possible for you to do. Whenever you feel more energetic, then focus on obeying and worshipping Allaah, and whenever you feel tired than go back to the moderate way. We ask Allaah to make things easy for you, and to guide you to the best of words, deeds and attitudes. 
And Allaah knows best.

Between hypocrisy and politeness

1. I would like to know the dividing line between hypocrisy and courtesy, because in many cases I feel that there is some two-facedness in people’s behaviour and dealings, based on their interests and whims and desires, and it is said that it is just courtesy. Is this true?
2. Is it possible for true friendship to be mixed with a little hypocrisy? I have a friend who does not love me as I thought she did. She held a special place in my heart that was shared by no one else, but recently I found out that my status with her is zero, and her behaviour with me for many years was superficial. I thought, and everyone was certain about that, that our friendship was strong, and until now I do not know how to end this friendship after finding out what is really going on.
3. Can the way this friend behaved be regarded as hypocrisy?
4. What is the punishment for hypocrisy in friendship?.

Praise be to Allaah.
Some people often confuse the meanings of hypocrisy, politeness and flattery, and the reason for that is the failure to understand the true meanings of brotherhood and sincere friendship. In their minds they do not separate truth and falsehood, good conduct and bad.  
Firstly: 
The word hypocrisy usually indicates pure evil. Hypocrisy is never something praiseworthy in any way whatsoever. The psychologists have defined it as showing a good face in order to achieve something bad and harmful. 
So the hypocrite is never seeking something good, rather he is seeking to harm people and betray them and bring evil to them, and he achieves that by showing a good face and appearing to be loving and friendly. 
Allaah says, warning against keeping company with hypocrites (interpretation of the meaning): 
“O you who believe! Take not as (your) Bitaanah (advisors, consultants, protectors, helpers, friends) those outside your religion (pagans, Jews, Christians, and hypocrites) since they will not fail to do their best to corrupt you. They desire to harm you severely. Hatred has already appeared from their mouths, but what their breasts conceal is far worse. Indeed We have made plain to you the Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses) if you understand.
119. Lo! You are the ones who love them but they love you not, and you believe in all the Scriptures [i.e. you believe in the Tawraat (Torah) and the Injeel (Gospel), while they disbelieve in your Book, the Qur’aan]. And when they meet you, they say, ‘We believe.’ But when they are alone, they bite the tips of their fingers at you in rage. Say: ‘Perish in your rage. Certainly, Allaah knows what is in the breasts (all the secrets)’”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:118-119] 
The same applies to everyone who presents a friendly face to people and appears loving, when in fact he is seeking to harm them and do something bad to them. 
Secondly: 
As for the one who is polite, he does not wish ill to anyone and he is not trying to harm anyone either outwardly or inwardly, but he may show a friendly, cheerful and kind face in order to soften the heart of one who has a bad attitude, or so as to ward off his harm from himself or others, but without agreeing with him in his falsehood or supporting him in any way, either by words or actions.  
Ibn Muflih al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
It was said to Ibn ‘Aqeel in al-Funoon: I hear the command of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning): “Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allaah orders the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend” [Fussilat 41:34], but I hear people regard those who show something other than what they feel as hypocrites. How can I obey Allaah and rid myself of hypocrisy? 
Ibn ‘Aqeel said: Hypocrisy means showing a good face whilst concealing bad intentions, and harbouring ill will whilst appearing good in order to cause harm. What the verse refers to is showing a good attitude in response to a bad one for the purpose of changing it to a good one.  
From this it may be understood that hypocrisy means concealing ill will whilst making a show of goodwill in order to cause harm and evil. The one who shows a good attitude in response to bad treatment in order to remove evil is not a hypocrite, rather he is trying to put things right. Have you not heard the words of Allaah “then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend”? This is done in order to soften hearts, ward off enmity, extinguish the flames of hatred, create love and correct beliefs. This is how one makes friends and wins hearts.
Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah (1/50, 51). 
Hence politeness is part of a good attitude, and the scholars said a great deal about it. 
Ibn Battaal (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Politeness is part of the attitude of the believers, and it is lowering the wing of humility to people, speaking gently, and not speaking harshly to them, which are among the best means of creating harmony.  
Fath al-Baari (10/528). 
In his Saheeh, al-Bukhaari included a chapter entitled “Chapter on politeness with people” in which he said: 
It was narrated from Abu’l-Darda’: We smile at people when our hearts are cursing them.  
He also included the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) concerning this topic: 
A man asked permission to enter upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and he said: “Let him in, what a bad son – or brother – of the clan he is.” When he entered he spoke kindly to him. I said to him: O Messenger of Allaah, you said what you said then you spoke kindly to him? He said: “O ‘Aa’ishah, the worst of people in status before Allaah is the one whom people leave alone for fear of his foul mouth.” 
Ibn Muflih al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
This attitude of Abu’l-Darda’ does not mean approving of something haraam; rather it is politeness that may achieve some purpose. This is what is meant by the report narrated in al-Saheehayn and elsewhere from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her): “O ‘Aa’ishah, the worst of people in status before Allaah is the one whom people leave alone for fear of his foul mouth.” 
It says in Sharh Muslim and elsewhere: Being polite to one whose foul mouth you fear. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not praise him to his face or in his absence, rather he sought to soften his heart by giving him some worldly thing and speaking gently to him.  
Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr quoted the words of Abu’l-Darda’ with regard to the virtues of good manners. 
Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah (1/50). 
The scholars wrote chapters on politeness, and Ibn Abi’l-Dunya wrote an essay entitled Politeness towards people, in which he said (p, 48, 50): 
It was narrated that Humayd ibn Hilaal said: I met some people who regarded politeness as an act of charity towards one another. 
It was narrated that al-Hasan said: Being friendly towards people is half of reason. End quote. 
Hanbal said that he heard Abu ‘Abd-Allaah – i.e., Ahmad ibn Hanbal – say: 
People need politeness and kindness, and enjoining what is good without harshness, except a man who does evil openly, who must be told and stopped.  
Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah (1/191). 
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
In some cases politeness dictates that we should not say the truth. Is this regarded as a kind of lying? 
He replied: 
That depends. If the politeness will result in rights being denied or falsehood being approved, then this politeness is not permissible. But if the politeness will not result in any falsehood, and it is just kind words that are general in meaning, and it does not involve testifying falsely in anyone’s favour or denying anyone’s rights, then I do not think there is anything wrong with it. 
Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz (5/280). 
Thirdly: 
It is also important to differentiate between praiseworthy politeness and blameworthy flattery. People mix them up because they are confused about proper manners and attitudes nowadays. 
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  
Some of them think that politeness is flattery, but they are mistaken, because politeness is recommended but flattery is haraam. The difference is that flattery refers to the one who shows one thing whilst concealing another. The scholars explained it as mixing with the evildoer and showing approval of what he is doing without denouncing it, and politeness is showing kindness to the ignorant whilst teaching him, and to the evildoer whilst denouncing his action, and not being harsh towards him when he is not committing evil openly, and rebuking him gently in word and deed, especially if his heart needs to be softened and so on. 
Fath al-Baari (10/528). 
Fourthly: 
Many friends – and this happens a lot among women – misunderstand the true nature of their friendship, and they tend to go to extremes and develop strong feelings when the other person does not feel the same way; rather the other side does not intend to form such a strong friendship, rather the aim is just an ordinary friendship as dictated by circumstances. In that case the one who felt the deeper attachment may feel pain such as could not be borne by mountains. We need to guide this friendship that could captivate our hearts because of people we love, so that we will not be surprised one day and start imagining that everything has started to collapse around us when a friendship was never like that in the first place. 
‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Your love should not reach the point of infatuation and your hatred should not reach the point of destruction.   
At the same time we need to deepen our understanding of brotherhood, which dictates loyalty, honesty and sincerity, where there is no room for excessive politeness and courtesy.  In the past they said: When friendship is sincere there will be no pretence. 
Undoubtedly such flattery is blameworthy and has no place in brotherhood and true friendship. If there is some occasional flattery among friends, it should be only what is dictated by circumstances, so as to ward off fitnah or preserve love. But if flattery is the basis of that friendship, then it is a distortion of all the meanings of true brotherhood. 
‘Ali (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The worst of friends is the one who tries too hard to flatter you and the one who expects too much courtesy from you and the one who makes you feel the need to justify yourself constantly. 
It was said to one of them: Who should we make friends with? He said: The one who removes from you the burden of pretence and with whom you feel no reservations. 
Ja’far ibn Muhammad al-Saadiq (may Allaah be pleased with him) used to say: The most burdensome of my brothers to me is the one who flatters me too much and I feel reserved with him. Ihya’ ‘Uloom al-Deen (2/181). 
And Allaah knows best.

Relationship of sin and attitude to ‘aqeedah

Does falling into sin indicate that there is something wrong with one’s ‘aqeedah?.

Praise be to Allaah.
Good attitudes – which are those that are obedience in and of themselves or lead to obedience – are part of Islam, in fact they are Islam. Allaah praised His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) for being “on an exalted standard of character” and Ibn ‘Abbas interpreted khuluq (translated here as “character”) as meaning Islam. 
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And verily, you (O Muhammad) are on an exalted (standard of) character”
[al-Qalam 68:4] 
Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: You are on an exalted standard of religion, which is Islam. Narrated by al-Tabaraani in his Tafseer (12/179). 
The correct view is that character cannot be separated from religion. Al-Fayroozabaadi said in his book Basaa’ir Dhawi’l-Tamyeez (2/568): It should be noted that religion is all character. Whoever excels over you in character will excel over you in religious commitment. End quote. 
Undoubtedly ‘aqeedah (belief) has a strong connection to one’s conduct and character, negative or positive. That is clear from a number of things, including the following: 
1 – The Muslim who believes that Allaah can hear him and see him and knows his secrets, and that belief is very strong in him, will be affected by this and will not do anything that a person whose belief in these matters is weak might do. 
Among the evidence for this is the following: 
(a)   The verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“But if you do good and keep away from evil, verily, Allaah is Ever Well‑Acquainted with what you do”
[al-Nisa’ 4:128] 
(b)  The verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allaah, even though it be against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, be he rich or poor, Allaah is a Better Protector to both (than you). So follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest you avoid justice; and if you distort your witness or refuse to give it, verily, Allaah is Ever Well‑Acquainted with what you do”
[al-Nisa’ 4:135] 
(c)  The verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Verily, Allaah commands that you should render back the trusts to those, to whom they are due; and that when you judge between men, you judge with justice. Verily, how excellent is the teaching which He (Allaah) gives you! Truly, Allaah is Ever All‑Hearer, All‑Seer”
[al-Nisa’ 4:58] 
2 – The Muslim who believes in the promises and warnings of Allaah will be motivated by that belief to do that which is beloved to Allaah, and to keep away from everything that is hated by Him. 
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The most perfect of the believers in faith is the one who is best in attitude.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1162) and he said: it is hasan saheeh. Also narrated by Abu Dawood (4682). 
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
It is well known that the most beloved of His creation to Him are the believers, and if the most perfect of them in faith are those who are best in attitude, then the most beloved to him are those who are best in attitude, and khuluq (character, attitude) is religion as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And verily, you (O Muhammad) are on an exalted (standard of) character” [al-Qalam 68:4]. Ibn ‘Abbaas said: On a high standard of religion. It was also interpreted thus by Sufyaan ibn ‘Uyaynah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and others, as we have explained elsewhere. Al-Istiqaamah (p. 442). 
Al-Mubaarakfoori (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: He said, “The most perfect of the believers in faith is the one who is best in attitude” because perfection of faith implies a good character and good treatment towards all people. 
Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi (4/273). 
3 – Strength of faith motivates one to do righteous deeds, and prevents one from indulging in sin. 
This is indicated by the following: 
(a)   It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the  Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing adultery; no thief is a believer at the time when he is stealing; no drinker of wine is a believer at the time when he is drinking it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2334) and Muslim (57). 
(b)  It was narrated from Abu Shurayh that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “By Allaah he does not believe, by Allaah he does not believe, by Allaah he does not believe.” It was said: Who, O Messenger of Allaah? He said: “The one from whose harm his neighbour is not safe.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5670). 
(c)   It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) passed by an Ansaari man who was exhorting his brother to be modest. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Let him be, for modesty is part of faith.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (24) and Muslim (36). 
Maalik ibn Dinar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Faith starts in the heart weak and feeble like a plant. If its owner takes care of it and nourishes it with beneficial knowledge and righteous deeds, and keeps away from it weeds and things that will make it weak, then soon it will grow and increase and will develop roots and branches, and will bear fruit and provide shade endlessly, until it becomes like a mountain. But if its owner neglects it and does not take care of it, a goat will come and eat it, or a child will come and take it, and the weeds will grow and overshadow it and destroy it. The same applies to faith. 
Khaythamah ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan said: Faith grows strong in fertile soil and grows weak in arid soil. Its fertile soil is righteous deeds and its arid soil is sin and disobedience. Quoted by Ibn Taymiyah in al-Eemaan, p. 213. 
4 – By the will and decree of  Allaah, faith prevents many bad attitudes and sins against which Islam issues stern warnings, such as getting angry, rending one’s garment, tearing out one’s hair and wailing. Faith also calls a person to acquire the best of attitudes, such as patience, acceptance and seeking reward. It was narrated that Suhayb al-Roomi (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “How wonderful is the situation of the believer, for all his affairs are good. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that is good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience, and that is good for him. This does not apply to anyone but the believer.” Narrated by Muslim (2999). 
In Sunan Abi Dawood (4700) it says: ‘Ubaadah ibn al-Saamit said to his son: You will never taste the reality of faith until you understand that whatever befalls you would never have missed you, and whatever misses you would never have befallen you. I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “The first thing that Allaah created was the Pen, and he said to it: ‘Write.’ 
It said: ‘O Lord, what should I write?’ 
He said: ‘Write the decrees of all things until the Hour begins.’” 
O my son, I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Whoever dies believing in something other than this does not belong to me.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani. 
5 – Islam urges us to do a great deal of good deeds, confirming their connection to belief in Allaah and the Last Day, and it forbids sins and deeds that incur punishment by reminding us of belief in Allaah and the Last Day. 
This is indicated by the following: 
(a)   It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him honour his neighbour; whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him honour his guest; whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day, let him speak good or else remain silent.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5672) and Muslim (47). 
(b)  It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Umar that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman who believes in Allaah and the Last Day to travel for a distance of three nights, unless she has a mahram with her.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1036)and Muslim (1338). 
(c)  It was narrated that Umm Habeebah said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “It is not permissible for a women who believes in Allaah and the Last Day to mourn for more than three days for anyone who dies, except for a husband, four months and ten days.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1221) and Muslim (1486). 
6 –The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) explained in his Sunnah that false belief, such as hypocrisy, leads to bad attitudes and bad deeds. 
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The signs of the hypocrite are three: when he speaks he lies, when he makes a promise he breaks it, and when he is entrusted with something he betrays that trust.” Narrated  by al-Bukhaari (33) and Muslim (59). 
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Those who go against the people of hadeeth (ahl al-sunnah) are those who are likely to have bad deeds, either because of corrupt beliefs and hypocrisy, or because of a sickness in the heart and weakness of faith. Among them are those who neglect obligatory duties, transgress the limits, take rights and duties lightly and are hard hearted, as is clear to everyone. Most of their Shaykhs are accused of major sins even if there are among them some who are known for asceticism and worship. The asceticism and worship of some of the common folk of Ahl al-Sunnah are better than what they do. 
It is well known that knowledge is the basis of action, and sound roots produce sound branches. A man does not do evil actions except for two reasons, either need or ignorance. The one who is aware of the abhorrence of a thing that he has no need of will not do it, unless his whims and desires have overpowered his reason and led him to commit sin, which is another matter altogether. Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (4/53). 
We ask Allaah to set all our affairs straight and to guide us to the best of words, deeds and attitudes. 
And Allaah knows best.

Praying for the one who treats you kindly by saying “Jazak Allaahu khayran”

Is there anything wrong with saying “Jazak Allaahu khayran (may Allaah reward you with good)” to the one from whom you take money?.

Praise be to Allaah.
Good manners dictate that you should reciprocate the one who does you a favour. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) enjoined that and said: “Whoever does you a favour, then reciprocate, and if you cannot find anything with which to reciprocate, then pray for him until you think that you have reciprocated him.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (1672); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani. 
Reciprocating kindness means choosing that which will make the one who did you a favour feel happy, just as he made you feel happy. So you should strive to thank him in kind. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Is there any reward for good other than good?”
[al-Rahmaan 55:60] 
If you are not able to reciprocate with a gift, or helping with some task, or offering some service, etc, then at least you can say du’aa’ for him, and this du’aa’ may be a means of bringing him happiness in this world and in the Hereafter. 
One of the best forms of du’aa’ for the one who has done you a favour is that which is mentioned in the Sunnah: 
It was narrated that Usaamah ibn Zayd (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has a favour done for him and says to the one who did it, ‘Jazak Allaahu khayran,’ has done enough to thank him.” 
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1958) and by al-Nasaa’i in al-Sunan al-Kubra (6/53); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 
This du’aa’ is also narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in a lengthy hadeeth in which it says: “You are the Ansaar, may Allaah reward you with good (jazaakum Allaahu khayran), for you are decent and patient.” Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan (7277) and al-Haakim (4/79). He said: its isnaad is saheeh, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. Shaykh al-Albaani said in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (3096): It is as they said. 
This phrase was often uttered by the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them). 
It says in Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah  (5/322): ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: If one of you knew what there is in his saying to his brother, ‘Jazaak Allaahu khayran’, you would say it a great deal to one another. 
Usayd ibn al-Hudayr (may Allaah be pleased with him) said to ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her): May Allaah reward you with good (O ‘Aa’ishah), for by Allaah, you never have any problem but Allaah grants you a way out and makes it a blessing for the Muslims. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (336) and Muslim (367). 
In Saheeh Muslim (1823) it is narrated that Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I came to my father when he was wounded and they praised him and said: May Allaah reward you with good, and he said: I have hope and fear – meaning hope for that which is with Allaah of reward and mercy, and fear of that which is with Him of punishment. 
What is meant by the phrase “Jazaak Allaahu khayran (May Allaah reward with you good)” is asking Allaah to reward you with a great deal of good. 
Fayd al-Qadeer (1/410) 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Sharh Riyaadh al-Saaliheen (4/22): 
Reciprocation depends on the situation. With some people, reciprocation may be by giving him something similar to what he gave you, or more. With others it may be by praying for him and he would not accept a gift of money, because if a great man who has a lot of wealth and high status and honour among his people gives you something and you give him a similar gift, he will think that you are failing to give him his due, but for such a person you should pray to Allaah for him. “And if you cannot find anything with which to reciprocate, then pray for him until you think that you have reciprocated him.” That may be by saying to him, Jazaak Allaahu khayran. That is because if Allaah rewards him with good, that will bring him happiness in this world and in the Hereafter. End quote. 
And Allaah knows best.

They are denouncing him for applying the Sunnah and saying that it divides the Muslims

The imam of our mosque said in a Friday khutbah that we should not be strict in following the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) because the Sunnah divides Muslims and we must be united. He quoted as evidence the fact that a Bedouin came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allaah, tell me of an action which, if I do it, I will enter Paradise. He said: Worship Allaah and do not associate anything with Him, establish the prescribed prayers, pay the obligatory zakaah and fast Ramadaan.” He said: By the One in Whose hand is my soul, I shall never do anything more or less than that. When he turned to leave, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever would like to look upon a man who is one of the people of Paradise, let him look upon this man.” 
Is this correct? Please note that we are followers of the Sunnah, and he calls the one who follows the Sunnah an extremist. 
Please advise us, may Allaah bless you.

Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly: 
Your imam has said something that is wrong and false. What he should have done was fear Allaah his Lord and refrain from speaking words that involved sin. 
The Prophetic Sunnah is the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his words and deeds. How can the Sunnah be dividing the Muslims?! What can unite them if the Sunnah divides them? 
If this imam was sincere he would have said that the Sunnah is what unites people, and brings them together. 
Imam Abu’l-Muzaffar al-Sam’aani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The reason why ahl al-hadeeth were united is that they learned their religion from the Qur'aan and Sunnah and sound reports, which united them and brought them together, whereas the followers of innovation learned their religion by means of reasoning, which divided them and made them differ. Al-Intisaar li Ahl al-Hadeeth (p. 47), 
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
The cause of unity and harmony is accepting the religion as a whole and following all of it, which is worshipping Allaah alone with no partner or associate, as He enjoined, both inwardly and outwardly. The cause of division is failing to do some of that which is enjoined upon a person, and transgression among different groups. 
The result of unity is mercy from Allaah, His pleasure and blessings, happiness in this world and in the Hereafter and brightness of the face, whereas the result of division is the punishment and curse of Allaah, darkness of the face and the disavowal of the Messenger. 
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (1/17). 
He (may Allaah have mercy on him) also said: 
Accepting sound reports from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) brings harmony, as was narrated from Maalik (may Allaah have mercy on him) who said: When knowledge decreases harshness will prevail and when there is little knowledge of hadeeth then whims and desires will prevail.
Dar’ al-Ta’aarud (1/149) 
How can the follower of the Sunnah be called an extremist when the Muslim is enjoined to follow it and take the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) as his example? What would this imam say about the deeds of the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased with them) when they followed the Sunnah of their Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) so closely? What would he say about this event? 
It was narrated that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Whilst the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was leading his companions in prayer, he took off his sandals and placed them to his left. When the people saw that, they took off their sandals too. When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) finished the prayer he said: What made you take off your sandals? They said: We saw you take off your sandals so we took ours off too. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Jibreel (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to me and told me that there was some dirt on them. and he said: When one of you comes to the mosque, let him look and if he sees any dirt (impurity) on his shoes, let him wipe it off and pray in them.” 
Narrated by Abu Dawood (650); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani. 
These companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) took off their shoes whilst praying simply because they saw their Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) take off his shoes. So what if it was a Sunnah narrated from him or it was something that he taught? 
Secondly: 
Criticizing the followers of the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and accusing them of being extremists or fanatics is offensive and is slander. Allaah has issued a warning to the one who does that, let alone the fact that it is an imitation of the mushrikeen who did this before him. 
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, they bear (on themselves) the crime of slander and plain sin”
[al-Ahzaab 33:58] 
“Verily, (during the worldly life) those who committed crimes used to laugh at those who believed.
30. And, whenever they passed by them, used to wink one to another (in mockery).
31. And when they returned to their own people, they would return jesting;
32. And when they saw them, they said: ‘Verily, these have indeed gone astray’”
[al-Mutaffifeen 83:29-32] 
Shaykh al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
“And when they saw them” means, when the sinners saw the believers, they said: 
“Verily, these have indeed gone astray” i.e., gone astray from the right path, and they are backward and narrow-minded and extreme, and other such labels. Those people have their successors in our own times. Some people say of good people that they are regressive and backward, and they say of the one who is religiously committed that he is extremist and narrow-minded. Even worse than all of that, they said of the Messengers that they were sorcerers or madmen. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Likewise, no Messenger came to those before them but they said: ‘A sorcerer or a madman!’” [al-Dhaariyaat 51:52]. The heirs of the Messengers, who are the scholars and those who are religiously committed encounter the same from the enemies of the Messengers as the Messengers encountered, of offensive labels and mockery, and so on. Among these accusations that the followers of innovation and those who deny the attributes of Allaah gave to those of the early generation who affirmed His attributes was that they thought of Allaah as a physical being, and other such negative accusations which put people off from the right way. 
Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh (no. 30). 
Thirdly: 
The kind of strictness in religious adherence which is to be criticized is that which regards mustahabb things as obligatory and makrooh things as haraam. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned against going to extremes in religion, and he also warned against undue strictness. Extremism and strictness does not mean applying the Sunnah, rather it means changing its rulings and being too strict with regard to commands and prohibitions when that is not the case.  
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said – commenting on the hadeeth, “Do not be too strict with yourselves, for some people were strict on themselves and Allaah was strict on them, and we see the remnants of that in their hermitages and monasteries.” - : 
Here the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade being strict in religion by going beyond what is prescribed. Strictness may sometimes means taking what is not obligatory or mustahabb and making it obligatory or mustahabb with regard to acts of worship, and sometimes it may mean taking something that is not haraam or makrooh and making it haraam or makrooh with regard to things that are good. The reason for that is that Allaah was very strict on those among the Christians who were too strict on themselves, until it ended up in the innovation of monasticism. 
Thus it may be noted that the Prophet disliked such things that the Christians did, such as innovation of monasticism, even though many devoted Muslims have fallen into the same trap on the basis of their interpretation for which they may be excused, or they fell into this trap with no justification. 
It may also be noted that being too strict with oneself in the beginning may lead to further strictness imposed by Allaah, either through laws or through His decree. As for laws, this is what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) feared during his own time, of an increase in obligations or prohibitions such as that which he feared when they gathered to pay Taraweeh with him, and when they asked about things that had not been forbidden, and such as the fact that when a person vows to do an act of worship it becomes obligatory for him to do it even though he is forbidden to make vows, and similarly expiations which become obligatory for specific reasons. 
As for the divine decree, we have often seen and heard that those who go to extremes in some issues, will be caused to suffer in ways that lead to things becoming more strict on him with regard to what is obligatory and what is haraam, such as many of those who are affected with waswaas about purification. When they do more than is prescribed, they will end up suffering from things that lead to something that may cause more hardship and harm to them.  
Iqtida’ al-Siraat al-Mustaqeem (103, 104). 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, commenting on the hadeeth of the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “O people, beware of going to extremes in religious matters for those who came before you were doomed because of going to extremes in religious matters.”  Narrated by al-Nasaa’i (3059) and Ibn Maajah (3029); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa'i: 
In this hadeeth the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned his ummah against going to extremes and proved that going to extremes is a cause of doom, because it is contrary to sharee’ah, and because it led to the downfall of previous nations. So it may be understood from this that going to extremes is haraam for two reasons: 
1 –He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned against it, and a warning is a prohibition and more.
2 –It is the cause of nations’ downfall as those who came before us were destroyed, and whatever is the cause of doom is haraam.
 
With regard to worship, people may go to one of two extremes or be moderate. Some are negligent, some exaggerate and some are moderate. 
The proper way (as prescribed by Islam) is the middle way between going to extremes and being negligent. Being moderate and not inclining towards either extreme is what is required. It is not permissible to exaggerate and go to extremes in religious matters, or to be careless and not pay any heed. Rather we should tread a middle path between both. 
Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (9/367, 368). 
Fourthly: 
The hadeeth which your imam quoted as evidence was narrated by al-Bukhaari (1333) and Muslim (14), and there is no dispute as to its soundness, but he has misunderstood it. If he had studied its narrations and what the scholars said, he would not have quoted it as evidence in this manner. According to a report narrated by al-Bukhaari, it says, “and taught him the laws of Islam.” This wording includes all other obligatory duties, and things that are recommended. 
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  
The words “he was asking about Islam” mean, about the laws of Islam. It may be understood that he asked about the realties of Islam. He did not mention the Shahaadah to him because he knew that he already knew it, or he knew that he was asking about practical laws, or he mentioned it but the narrator did not transmit it because it is so well known. And he did not mention Hajj either because it had not been enjoined yet or because the narrator had shortened the report. This second view is supported by the report narrated by the compiler – i.e., al-Bukhaari – concerning fasting via Ismaa’eel ibn Ja’far from Abu Suhayl in this hadeeth. He said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told him of the laws of Islam, and he included all obligatory and recommended deeds in that.  
“And the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) mentioned zakaah” – in the report of Ismaa’eel ibn Ja’far it says: He told me of what Allaah had enjoined upon me of zakaah. He said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told him of the laws of Islam. This report shows that there were things in the story that were told in brief form, such as explaining the minimum thresholds for paying zakaah, which are not explained in these two reports, and neither are the names of the prayers. It seems that the reason for that is that these things were well known among them, or that the purpose of the story was to show that the one who adheres to the obligatory duties will be saved even if he does not do naafil actions. 
With regard to him succeeding when he does not fall short in that, this is clear, but how can he succeed if he does not add anything to it?  Al-Nawawi answered by saying that the hadeeth confirms that he will succeed because he has done what he is required to do, and there is nothing to suggest that if he does more than that he will not be successful, because if he succeeds by doing what is obligatory, he is more likely to succeed if he does recommended actions as well as obligatory deeds. 
Fath al-Baari (1/108) 
We hope that the imam will think about the phrase “and he taught him the laws of Islam”, and we hope that he will think about the last words that we have quoted from al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar, in which he approved of the words of Imam al-Nawawi, that success is more likely for the one who does the obligatory duties and adds to them the recommended deeds. 
Fifthly: 
We advise you to adhere to the commands of Allaah, may He be exalted, and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and we also advise you to adhere to the Sunnah and kept doing mustahabb deeds, without going to extremes or exaggerating, and teach that to people with wisdom and good methods. It is not permissible for you to put people off by being too strict in matters that are broad in scope, or by making mustahabb things obligatory, or by going to extremes in denouncing people, especially the elite such as the imam of the mosque or the mufti or one who holds a similar status in people’s eyes. Listen to this comprehensive advice from a great scholar: 
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (may Allaah preserve him) said: 
You must adhere to the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and stick to it, and not pay any attention to the criticism of those who criticize you or blame you for that. If your parents criticize you for adhering to the Sunnah and they want you to be heedless about that, then do not obey them with regard to that, especially if these sunnahs are obligatory duties that must be adhered to, and they are not just mustahabb, so long as it does not reach the level of being exaggeration. But if it means that you are exaggerating, then that is not appropriate, rather you should be balanced and moderate in applying the Sunnah and acting upon it, without going to extremes or exaggerating, and without being careless or heedless. This is what you should do. Whatever the case, you will be rewarded – in sha Allaah – and you must adhere to the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and try to convince those who are criticizing you about that, especially your parents. You should encourage them to follow the Sunnah and explain to them the reward and goodness that there is in that. Perhaps they will drop these objections, and maybe this deed will cause them to also adhere to the Sunnah, and you will be the one who called them to Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted. Undoubtedly the one who wants to call people to Allaah is obliged to begin with his relatives and the closest of people to him, and one’s parents are among the closest of people to a person. 
Whatever the case, if your adherence to the Sunnah does not go to extremes of exaggeration, then it is something praiseworthy, and you must continue in it, and call your parents and others to it. And Allaah knows best. 
Al-Muntaqa min Fataawa al-Shaykh al-Fawzaan (2/301, 302) 
Finally: Just as it is blameworthy exaggeration to make mustahabb things like obligatory deeds or makrooh things like haraam deeds, or to oblige ourselves to do things that Allaah has not made obligatory upon us, it is also ignorance of the basic principles of sharee’ah to ignore the important general principle which is that harmony and love among Muslims are essential, and we must be united in adhering to Islam and protect the honour of the Muslim from criticism and shame, let alone aggression and harm. It is ignorance to neglect all of that just because someone adheres to something that is mustahabb but others do not see it as such, or to something that he does not adhere to, and respond by transgressing against the Muslim’s honour or rights because he neglects something that others adhere to. It is by such means that the accursed enemy attains his goal among the believers, and it is even worse when it happens in a foreign land where others see us as representatives of Islam. 
Imam Muslim narrated in his Saheeh (2812) that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “The Shaytaan has despaired of being worshipped in the Arabian Peninsula, but he will sow seeds of discord among them.” 
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
As for the description of prayer, one of its issues is the Basmalah (saying Bismillaah…), and the people differ as to whether it is a verse of the Qur'aan or not, and whether it is to be recited or not. Both sides have written books that show a great deal of ignorance and wrongdoing, even though the issues is not that serious. Adhering blindly to one’s view in these and similar matters is one of the signs of division and dissent which is forbidden for us. The reason for discussing these controversial minor issues is to find out which view is more sound, as these issues are among the least serious controversial issues, but the shaytaan may play a role in creating divisions among Muslims because of these minor issues.   
Then he said: It is mustahabb for a man to try to reconcile people by refraining from these mustahabb deeds, because the interests served by reconciling people in Islam is greater than the interest served by doing such things. Similarly, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) decided not to change the structure of the Ka’bah, because leaving it as it was would reconcile people, and Ibn Mas’ood criticized ‘Uthmaan for offering prayers in full whilst travelling, but he still prayed behind him when he offered the prayer in full, and said: Dissent is evil. 
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (22/405-407). 
And Allaah knows best.