I work in the field of audio and video via computer and satellite (all of it is Islamic and da’wah work, by the grace of Allaah). I have good experience, praise be to Allaah. My father wants me to work with him in our business, but I have a few problems, the first of which is that I am not good at business.
The second problem is that this business involves some things that are not Islamic, such as notebooks on which are pictures of animate beings, and music books, and cards with pictures of animate beings, and playing cards and shavers. (I live in a country where most men do not have beards).
Praise be to Allaah.
Undoubtedly honouring one's parents is one of the greatest
acts of worship by means of which a person may draw closer to his Lord.
Allaah has enjoined good treatment of them in all circumstances, even if
they disbelieve in Allaah. We have already discussed this in questions no.
With regard to what you have mentioned, try to convince your
father to let you do work that you are good at, through which you can
produce something good for others, for every one has an affinity with that
for which he was created. Part of doing things well and fulfilling the trust
is for each person to be placed in a job for which he is suited. Part of
failing to work well, wasting money and neglecting the trust is to assign
work to those who are not qualified to do it. Then try to help him to find a
good and trustworthy alternative, who can help him with his business instead
of you, even if you have to pay part of his wages. Do that to please your
father. If the situation requires you to spend part of your free time with
your father, then do that.
“and do good. Truly, Allaah loves Al-Muhsinoon
“and be dutiful and good to parents”
If you try hard to do
that, but you do not manage to convince your father, then my advice to you
is that you should take a leave of absence from your current job, if
possible, and join your father in his work for this period. Perhaps things
will go as you wish during this time. If you cannot take this leave of
absence, then you do not have to give up your job or pay any of your wealth
or divorce your wife in order to please your parents, if that will cause
harm to you. Your not obeying them in this case is not regarded as ‘uqooq
(the defiant disobedience of parents that is forbidden in Islam), in sha
Allah. See question no. 9594 and
A man said to Imam Ahmad: I have a slave woman and my mother
is asking me to sell her.
He said: Are you afraid
that your heart will follow her? (i.e., are you afraid that your heart will
remain attached to the slave woman if you sell her?). He said: Yes. He said:
Do not sell her. He said: But she (my mother) is saying that she will not be
pleased with me unless I sell her. He said: If you fear that (selling the
slave woman) will affect you, then she (your mother) has no right to make
Al-Adaab al-Shar’iyyah by Ibn
But you must also strive to soften your father’s heart and be
gentle in your dealing with him. Also try to purify your business from
selling things that it is forbidden to sell or that you think are most
likely to be used in haraam ways. Do not sell these things even if you
father tells you to do so, because there is no obedience to any created
being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator.
What you have mentioned about notebooks with pictures on
them, this is a problem that is widespread. If these pictures are taken from
photographs and are not drawn by hand, then there is no sin in selling these
notebooks with these pictures, in sha Allaah, because what is being bought
is not the picture in and of itself, but rather the notebook. But if it is a
picture of a woman or some indecent image, of which there are many such,
then it is not permissible to sell it because that is spreading fitnah and
corruption, and because many people look for such pictures.
With regard to selling music books, this is haraam, because
it is helping in evil. The same applies to selling shavers to one whom one
thinks will most likely use it to shave his beard. But if he is going to use
it for some permissible purpose, then it is permissible to sell it.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was
My father has a store in which he sells electrical appliances
such as TVs, VCRs and some musical instruments, as well as gold watches. He
asked me to sit in the shop and sell things, but I refused. Is this
considered to be defiant disobedience to my father? What should I do?
This is not defiant disobedience, if you refused to do the
haraam action that your father does. But what you have to do is to advise
him and tell him that this is haraam and his earnings are haraam. If he
follows right guidance, then this is what you want. But if he does not
follow right guidance, then the sin is on him and you will have the reward
for advising him, because Allaah said to His Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) (interpretation of the meaning):
“Not upon you
(Muhammad) is their guidance”
If he tells you: Sit in
the store and sell things, do not sell anything that will be used for haraam
purposes, but sell the things that people usually use for permissible
purposes. So do not sell things such as radios, cassette recorders, VCRs and
TVs, because most of those who buy these things are going to use them for