Thursday, 28 April 2011

Dealing with a child who gets angry quickly

I have a son who is very hot tempered. How can I deal with this characteristic?.

Praise be to Allaah.


The issue of dealing with anger has already
been discussed. Please see question no.
658. Means of
dealing with anger include the following: 

Seeking refuge with
Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan.

Keeping quiet.

Calming down; if you
are standing, you should sit down; if you are sitting, you should lie down.

Remembering the
reward for restraining anger, as it says in the saheeh hadeeth: “Do not get
angry and Paradise will be yours.”

Understanding the
high status of one who controls himself, as it says in the saheeh hadeeth:
“Whoever restrains his anger, Allaah will cover his faults. Whoever controls
his fury – even if he is able to show it – Allaah will fill his heart with
hope on the Day of Resurrection.” (Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in
al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 906).

Learning what the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) teachings
concerning anger.

Knowing that
controlling anger is one of the signs of piety, as it says in the hadeeth
quoted above.

Paying attention
when reminded, controlling oneself and following advice.

Knowing the bad
effects of anger.

Thinking about how
one is affected at the moment of anger.

Praying that Allaah
will remove this resentment from one's heart. 

There follows a lovely story which will help
you to deal with the child whose problem you mention: 

There was a boy who was always losing his
temper. His father gave him a bag full of nails and said to him, “My son, I
want you to hammer a nail into our garden fence every time you need to
direct your anger against something and you lose your temper.” 

So the son started to follow his father’s
advice. On the first day he hammered in 37 nails, but getting the nails into
the fence was not easy, so he started trying to control himself when he got
angry. As the days went by, he was hammering in less nails, and within weeks
he was able to control himself and was able to refrain from getting angry
and from hammering nails. He came to his father and told him what he had
achieved. His father was happy with his efforts and said to him: “But now,
my son, you have to take out a nail for every day that you do not get

The son started to take out the nails for
each day that he did not get angry, until there were no nails left in the

He came to his father and told him what he had achieved. His father took him to the fence and said, “My son, you have done well, but look at these holes in the fence. This fence will never be the same again.” Then he added: “When you say things in a state of anger, they leave marks like these holes on the hearts of others. You can stab a person and withdraw the knife but it doesn’t matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry,’ because the wound will remain.

From learning Quran online Blog 

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