As a young Muslim (26yrs) im often challenged with enjoining good and forbidding the wrong with poeple much older than me, especially my father who is muslim(from Egypt),how do I do this when he acts unjust with the way he talks to me,my brothers and my mother,not spending or teaching that much for thier deen ,whilst they go extreamly astray ,seeing my father shaking hands or hugging wemon at work for business puposses as he says not to make them feel uncomfortable or think weird,,,or as a youth leader for a youth group ,the parents will some times tell the children in my group while we are having a meeting to do something wich is a bida' in front of me,,how do I correct things like this in my position with out seeming disrespectfull to my elders.
Enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil is one of
the greatest duties that Islam enjoins upon Muslims; Allaah has made it the
main quality of this ummah and a condition of it being the best of people.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“You (true believers in Islamic Monotheism, and real
followers of Prophet Muhammad and his Sunnah) are the best of peoples ever
raised up for mankind; you enjoin Al-Ma‘roof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and
all that Islam has ordained) and forbid Al‑Munkar (polytheism, disbelief and
all that Islam has forbidden), and you believe in Allaah”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:110]
“The believers, men and women, are Awliyaa’ (helpers,
supporters, friends, protectors) of one another; they enjoin (on the people)
Al‑Ma‘roof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do),
and forbid (people) from Al‑Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all
kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden); they perform As-Salaah
(Iqaamat-as-Salaah), and give the Zakaah, and obey Allaah and His Messenger.
Allaah will have His Mercy on them. Surely, Allaah is All-Mighty, All-Wise”
[al-Tawbah 9:71]
See also question no.
11403. This is
indicative of the high status that Islam gives to enjoining what is good and
forbidding what is evil.
With regard to the problems of undertaking this duty with
regard to those who are older than you, especially your father, you can
overcome these problems to a great extent by understanding that this duty
must be accompanied by three basic characteristics: knowledge, kindness and
patience. Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: “These three are essential:
knowledge, kindness and patience: knowledge before enjoining or forbidding,
kindness when doing so and patience afterwards, as it was narrated that one
of the salaf said: No one can enjoin what is good or forbid what is evil
unless he understands what he is enjoining or forbidding, and is kind in
enjoining and kind in forbidding, and is patience and forbearing when
enjoining and when forbidding.”
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 28/137
In order to solve these
problems we should first draw attention to the importance of being patient
and forbearing. Do not be too harsh with your father, because he is first of
all your father, and because he is older than you. Seek help in doing that
by choosing the right time for each conversation, watching out for times
when he is in a good mood and is more likely to be influenced and respond.
Also seek the help of wise, righteous and sincere people. Before all that it
is essential to be sincere towards him in word and deed, and in all your
affairs, and to fear that the punishment of his Lord may befall him, and
after that be patient in awaiting the decree of your Lord. Whatever happens
to you if you do this duty for the sake of Allaah, as Luqmaan the wise said
to his son:
“O my son!
Aqim‑is‑Salaah (perform As‑Salaah), enjoin (on people) Al‑Ma‘roof (Islamic
Monotheism and all that is good), and forbid (people) from Al‑Munkar (i.e.
disbelief in the Oneness of Allaah, polytheism of all kinds and all that is
evil and bad), and bear with patience whatever befalls you. Verily, these
are some of the important commandments (ordered by Allaah with no
exemption)”
[Luqmaan 31:17 – interpretation of the meaning]
You should always remember the Close Friend of the Most
Merciful, Ibraaheem, and how he addressed his father when he told him not to
associate others with Allaah, which is worse than the things that your
father is doing; how he was loving towards him, felt pity for him and was
sincere towards him, then he bore his bad response with patience. Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And mention in the Book
(the Qur’aan) Ibraaheem (Abraham). Verily, he was a man of truth, a Prophet.
42. When he said to his
father: ‘O my father! Why do you worship that which hears not, sees not and
cannot avail you in anything?
43. ‘O my father!
Verily, there has come to me of the knowledge that which came not unto you.
So follow me, I will guide you to the Straight Path.
44. ‘O my father!
Worship not Shaytaan (Satan). Verily, Shaytaan (Satan) has been a rebel
against the Most Gracious (Allaah).
45. ‘O my father!
Verily, I fear lest a torment from the Most Gracious (Allaah) should
overtake you, so that you become a companion of Shaytaan (Satan) (in the
Hell‑fire).’
46. He (the father)
said: ‘Do you reject my gods, O Ibraaheem (Abraham)? If you stop not (this),
I will indeed stone you. So get away from me safely (before I punish you).’
47. Ibraaheem (Abraham)
said: ‘Peace be on you! I will ask forgiveness of my Lord for you. Verily,
He is unto me Ever Most Gracious.
48. ‘And I shall turn
away from you and from those whom you invoke besides Allaah. And I shall
call upon my Lord and I hope that I shall not be unblest in my invocation to
my Lord’”
[Maryam 19:41-48]
With regard to the group that you are leading, this is an
easier matter, because their closeness in age makes it easier for them to
accept advice from you, especially if they know you to be sincere and
honest, and that you practise what you preach. This practical implementation
of what you are calling them to is one of the most effective means of
da’wah, especially if speaking directly will cause them to turn away and be
stubborn.
With regard to your advice and da’wah being undermined by
their parents’ directions, you should avoid blatantly contradicting what
they say; rather you should look at the mistakes and teach them the right
way. If it is the matter of a sin that they are committing, then teach them
to fear disobeying Allaah and to love obeying Him. Instill in their hearts a
sense of the greatness of Allaah and the seriousness of His prohibitions,
then teach them about what has been narrated concerning these particular
sins. This is what you should do if it is the matter of an innovation that
you notice them engaging in. First instill in their hearts the love of the
Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and
teach them that this is the practical manifestation of love for the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). And instill in their
hearts a hatred for bid’ah and tell them how it is the way that leads to
Hell even though the one who follows it thinks that it is the way that leads
to Paradise. Tell them of the advice of the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) to his ummah concerning that, as narrated
in the hadeeth of al-‘Irbaad ibn Saariyah (may Allaah be pleased with him)
who said:
“The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) led us in praying Fajr then he turned to us and delivered an
eloquent exhortation that caused our eyes to flow with tears and our hearts
to melt. We said (or they said): ‘O Messenger of Allaah, it is as if this
exhortation is a farewell, so advise us.’ He said: ‘I advise you to fear
Allaah and to listen and obey even if (your leader is) an Abyssinian slave.
Those of you who live will see great differences after I am gone, so I urge
you to adhere to my Sunnah and the path of the Rightly-Guided Caliphs, and
take hold of it firmly. And beware of newly-invented matters, for every
newly-invented matter is an innovation and every innovation is a going
astray.’” Narrated by Ahmad, 16692 and others; classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in al-Saheehah, 45.
So after this general advice we move to addressing the
specific bid’ah into which they have fallen.
It should be noted that your presence in this group should be
for a good purpose; as long as your presence is more likely to do good or to
reduce any evils, then join them in their gatherings with this intention.
But beware of letting your presence have any negative effect or make you get
used to accepting mistakes, or lead you to make similar mistakes. In that
case you should leave the place where evil things are happening. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“And it has already been revealed to you in the Book (this
Qur’aan) that when you hear the Verses of Allaah being denied and mocked at,
then sit not with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if
you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would be like them. Surely,
Allaah will collect the hypocrites and disbelievers all together in Hell”
[al-Nisa’ 4:140]
Shaykh Ibn Sa’di (may
Allaah have mercy on him) said: Whoever attends a gathering in which Allaah
is disobeyed, then he must denounce their action if he is able to, or he
must leave if he not able to do that.
Tafseer Ibn Sa’di, p. 210.
May Allaah help us and you to do that which He loves and
which pleases Him, and make us steadfast in adhering to true guidance and
the straight path.
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