There is a girl who got engaged and she went out with her fiancé and exchanged many letters with him. I advised her not to do that because Islam forbids it, but she did not pay any heed. Then she surprised everyone by canceling the engagement but she did not give any reason. Is it permissible for her to do that?.
A woman should choose a righteous man for her husband; it is
not permissible for a guardian to reject a man who is religiously committed
and of good character, if he comes seeking marriage to a female relative
under his care.
For more details on the qualities of a righteous husband,
please see the answer to question no. 5202 and
A man must also make a good choice of a wife. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) advised men to marry women
who are religiously committed, for a righteous woman will protect a man’s
house, wealth and children.
For more details on the qualities of a righteous wife, please
see the answers to questions no. 26744 and
Engagement is no more than a promise to marry. The fiancé is
still a non-mahram to his fiancée and it is not permissible for him to be
alone with her, shake hands with her or go out with her.
This young woman and this young man have to repent to Allaah
for the sins that they have committed. What happened is not surprising,
because both of them got engaged without adhering to the Islamic rulings.
With regard to her canceling the engagement, it says in
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (18/69): An engagement between a man and
woman is not equivalent to a marriage contract. Either the man or the woman
may cancel the engagement if they think it is better to do so, whether the
other party agrees or not.
The sister should note the danger of corresponding and
conversing with the opposite sex, because this may lead to many negative
consequences. The internet is full of stories of women who were careless
about such matters to the extent that they lost their honour, and women who
did such things because they thought it was just for fun or that they would
be able to protect themselves, but they quickly fell into the wolf’s lair.
We have explained the ruling on correspondence between the
sexes in the answers to questions no. 34841,
And Allaah knows best.