Praise be to Allaah.
Marriage is a step towards
happiness in this world, but many people seek happiness in this transient
world and forget about the Hereafter which is eternal, so when it comes to
marriage they do not pay attention to that which Allaah has prescribed, and
they only think of finding pleasure and satisfying desires, and they only
pay attention to the beauty, status or wealth of the woman they seek, and in
most cases that is at the expense of religious commitment.
We do not think that you
are one of these people.
The Muslim needs someone
who will make him steadfast and help him to be righteous and adhere to the
path of good and obedience. The best help in all of that is a righteous
wife, who will tell him to do good and forbid him to do evil.
The Muslim also needs a
decent and righteous mother who will take care of his children and bring
them up properly, and instil strong morals and good values in them, teaching
them to submit fully to Allaah and to respect the religion of Allaah in
their hearts and be motivated to adhere to the rulings of sharee’ah in their
lives, so that they will attain the pleasure of Allaah in this world and in
the Hereafter, and so that they will be beacons of goodness and
righteousness in their societies.
This is what you should
look for in the woman whom you seek as a wife and companion, and this is
what you should pay attention to when proposing marriage.
Think about the situation
of this girl to whom you want to propose marriage.
If you see in her what we
have described, then she is the one you want, so make sure you do not miss
this opportunity. The sign of that is that if you explain to her that
smoking is haraam and that helping with it and working in companies that
produce and market tobacco is haraam, she will respond to you and will give
up her job willingly, rejoicing that Allaah has guided her and diverted her
from haraam and impure earnings. We ask Alala to guide this young woman.
But if she rejects your
advice and does not listen to the fatwas of the scholars which are virtually
unanimous in stating that this obnoxious plant is haraam and that it is
haraam to work in producing it, and she insists on staying in that haraam
job and mixing with non-mahram men who share this sin with her, then we do
not think that in that case you will see in her the good qualities that we
spoke of, and you will realize that our advice will – inevitably – be to
forget about this proposal and look for another opportunity that is based on
obedience, piety and commitment, and to avoid speaking to this girl, and not
try to get in touch with her, because speaking to women unnecessarily is
Working in factories and
companies that produce tobacco and cigarettes is worse than actually
smoking, because the producer of tobacco is a producer of evil and a source
of evil and harm who is working to corrupt society by destroying the health
and well being that Allaah has given to people. So he bears the burden of
sin for all the harm and damage that spreads through society because of
smoking, even if his work is in the accounting department, because the
company is a single entity whose work is basically haraam, and every job
that helps in something haraam is also haraam.
We look forward to the day
on which the tobacco factories and companies will become idle, shunned by
every Muslim who feels a sense of protective jealousy towards his religion,
his own self and his society, and when he protects himself against being a
source of destruction and corruption.
Try to advise this girl
concerning this matter, and quote to her the fatwas which state that.
Neither you nor she should seek that haraam provision, for Allaah, may He be
glorified and exalted, erases blessing from that which is haraam but He
blesses that which is halaal. If she responds, then go ahead and marry her,
otherwise Allaah will make everyone independent of means by His Bounty, and
Allaah is Most Generous and Wise.
See also the answers to the
following questions which explain the ruling on smoking and its seriousness:
With regard to the
qualities of the righteous wife, please see the answer to question no.
On our site there are many
fatwas which state that it is haraam to work in anything that involves
helping in evil and haraam. See for example no.
For guidelines on women
working, please see: 6666,
And Allaah knows best.