Praise be to Allaah.
is a stranger (non-mahram) to his fiancée and it is not permissible for him
to touch her, shake hands with her or be alone with her. The evidence that
these things are haraam is well known and is not hidden. See question no.
happened between you is haraam and you must repent to Allaah, may He be
exalted, for that, by giving it up, regretting it and resolving not to do it
again in the future. You must also keep away from the things that lead to
haraam such as being in touch or corresponding, until the marriage contract
are careless about such matters during the engagement period; this is an
evil matter which leads to things that are even worse.
how the shaytaan toys with man until he commits zina with the one he wants
to marry. Verily to Allaah we belong and unto Him is our return.
a marriage that starts with something haraam, and is based on haraam. How
will it be and how will it end?
that you said to your fiancée “Will you marry me according to the Sunnah of
Allaah and His Messenger” and she said yes is not regarded as a marriage and
it is worthless according to sharee’ah. It does not make permissible what
happened before it and what will come after it. Rather this is one of the
tricks of the shaytaan whereby he deceives some of those who turn away from
learning what their religion requires of them. If this were a real marriage,
why would every adulterer and adulteress fail to do it?
contract is not valid unless it is done in the presence of the woman’s wali
(guardian) and with his consent, because the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no marriage without a
wali.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (2085), al-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Maajah
(1881) from the hadeeth of Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari; classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who gets
married without the permission of her wali, her marriage is invalid, her
marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” Narrated by Ahmad (24417),
Abu Dawood (2083) and al-Tirmidhi (1102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 2709.
describes marriage as meethaaq ghaleez (firm and strong covenant –
al-Nisa’ 4:21). It is not a game that a man plays with his friends, bringing
whomever he wants to witness his marriage to a woman who is careless about
her honour and who has sold herself, then when he has had his way with her
he leaves her with no authority over him and no way to demand maintenance
from him, then if she produces a child he is the first one to disavow
himself of him. And he does not know, perhaps she married another husband in
the same cheap manner?
you how abhorrent are these tricks that are used in order to commit zina and
which are called marriage. Unfortunately this has become widespread among
some Muslims. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
should like you to ask yourself this question: If this girl was your sister
or your daughter, would you agree to her fiancé doing that with her?
If you would
not like it for your sister or your daughter, then other people do not like
it for their sisters and daughters either.
give up this haraam action, and protect the honour of the one whom you want
to be your wife in the future.
hasten to get married, so that you will be safe from committing something
help us all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.