Islam Question and Answer - She has received a proposal from a man who works as a drummer

She has received a proposal from a man who works as a drummer

I am a 38 year old woman. I am Muslim and wear hijab, and I work. I have offered a number of prayers with the hope of getting married. These prayers are: Salaat al-istikhaarah, which is mentioned by al-Bukhaari (2 rak’ahs); salaat al-haajah which is mentioned by al-Haakim (12 rak’ahs), and I read Soorat al-Baqarah along with the du’aa’ praying for marriage, by Shaykh XXX. I also pray when I am prostrating that this problem will be resolved. After that, I received a proposal of marriage from a Muslim man who prays and has done ‘umrah twice. He is 39 years old and has no other job but working as a drummer, but he comes from a good family. What is your opinion about this matter? I hope that you can reply as soon as possible because I am confused about what to do. Thank you very much.

 

Praise be to Allaah.

1 – Salaat al-istikhaarah
is prescribed if a person is thinking of some matter, as it says in the
hadeeth: “If any one of you
is concerned about a decision he has to make, then let him pray two rak’ahs
of non-obligatory prayer, then say: Allaahumma inni astakheeruka bi
‘ilmika wa astaqdiruka bi qudratika wa as’aluka min fadlika’l-‘azeem (O
Allaah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your
knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your
great bounty)…” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1166). 

If a woman receives a proposal of marriage, it is mustahabb for her to pray
istikhaarah and ask Allaah for guidance as to whether to accept this
proposal. 

2 – With regard to salaat al-haajah, which is mentioned in the hadeeth of
Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who said: “Twelve rak’ahs that you
pray by night or day and recite the tashahhud between each two rak’ahs. When
you recite tashahhud at the end of the prayer, then praise Allaah and send
blessings and peace upon the Prophet, and recite the Opening of the Book
seven times whilst you are prostrating, and say:  Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah
wahdahu laa shareeka lah, lahu’l-mulk wa lahu’l-hamd was huwa ‘ala kulli
shay’in qadeer (There is no god but Allaah alone with no partner or
associate, His is the Dominion, to Him be praise, and He has power over all
things) ten times. Then say: “O Allaah, I ask You by the glory of Your
Throne and the Mercy of Your Book and Your greatest name and Your highest
majesty and Your perfect words,” Then ask for what you need, then raise your
head and say salaam right and left. Do not teach it to the foolish for they
will pray and will be answered.” 

This hadeeth is not saheeh,
rather it is a false, fabricated (mawdoo’) hadeeth, as al-Albaani (may
Allaah have mercy on him) said in Da’eef al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb,
no. 418. 

3 – There is no specific
du’aa’ concerning marriage that is called du’aa’ tayseer al-zawaaj (du’aa’
praying for marriage). Rather a person may ask his Lord to bless him by His
bounty and to facilitate good for him wherever it may be. 

4 – Working as a musician
or drummer is haraam and the payment received for that is haraam wealth,
because of the reports in sharee’ah which say that musical instruments are
haraam. See the answer to question no. 5000. 

Based on this, you should
advise this man. If he repents to Allaah and gives up this work, and finds a
permissible job, there is no reason why you should not marry him. If he
continues with this work, then there is nothing good for you in him, because
his wealth is haraam and he is persisting in doing something haraam. 

We ask Allaah to bless you
with a righteous husband and righteous offspring. 

And Allaah knows best.

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