Praise be to Allaah.
There is no
particular etiquette prescribed in sharee’ah for proposing marriage
apart from the traditions and etiquette that are known in all lands, so
long as they are in accordance with the sharee’ah.
You want to marry your friend’s
sister, but you do not know how he will react and are afraid that he may
be angry, but you do not mention any reasons why he may be angry.
only because he loves his sister and she is dear to him? This is not an
obstacle, for the one whose sister or daughter is dear to him will look
for a good match for her, and this is a part of his sincerity towards her.
If it is
a different matter, such as traditions or pragmatic issues, then we cannot
advise you without knowing what they are.
could consult with a knowledgeable person from your friend’s country who
knows you and him, and who could advise you.
could approach your friend in an indirect manner, such as telling him that
you want to get married and ask him who could offer you advice about women
or ask him to tell you who knows about the Muslim women. Perhaps then you
would see something of how he feels about this matter. Or you could tell
him that you love him for the sake of Allaah, and explain your wishes by
saying that this love could be strengthened and the tie made more lasting
if you were to become brothers-in-law. So you could say, for example, “I
wish I had a sister whom you could marry, or you had a (female) relative
whom I could marry, so that we could always keep in touch.” Then wait
and see his reaction; then you will know whether to take the matter
further or not. If you are afraid of his reaction, you could ask someone
else to bring up this topic, so as to spare yourself any embarrassment.
And remember that du’aa’ is one of the most important means of
achieving desired results. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.