Thursday, 16 June 2011

Forget fashion, this is freedom

Forget fashion, this is freedom

The Muslim veil has become a hot political issue in France - but
Stella White cannot see what the fuss is about. A Catholic from
Kent, she explains the joys of the complete cover-up

To liberated Westerners, the hijab, or veil, is a stain on womankind.
It symbolises the crushing of the female spirit and is the mark
of slavery, transforming a woman into a passive lump who is only
allowed out of the house to buy her husband's dinner.

When faced with this piece-of-cloth-on-legs, English women will
often meet the eyes peeking out of the hijab with an expression
of pity and sadness. For them, the veil represents a living death.
This might also be the feeling of the French authorities, who have
decided to ban the hijab in schools, believing that no young girl
should have to carry the burden of repression on her tender head.

Yet for many, including myself, the veil is not an instrument of
coercion, but a means of liberation. Personally, I have never felt
so free as I do when I am wearing it.

Before you presume that I am regurgitating propaganda from a culture
that has brainwashed me, I should point out that I am a Catholic,
not a Muslim. I am not from the mysterious East, but am a 32-year-old
woman from boring Kent. Nor am I a prude: my life has included spells
as an exotic dancer, kissogram and glamour model. Three of my best
friends are strippers. I have had relationships with Muslim men,
but none of them ever demanded I wear the hijab; in fact, they found
my behaviour slightly embarrassing. There is nobody in my past that
has coerced me to wear a veil. I do so simply because I love it.

I relish the privacy; the barrier that the hijab creates between
myself and the harsh, frenetic world, especially in London. I find
a great peace behind the veil: I don't feel invaded by nosy passers-by;
the traffic, noise and crowds seem less overwhelming. I can retreat
into my own safe world even as I walk and, on a practical level,
I feel completely secure from unwanted advances.

The hijab is also a financial security system. Like most pedestrians
in London, I can't afford to give money to every homeless person
I see, but feel stressed and guilty when I walk past them. In my
hijab, my conscience can hide. I also feel fairly safe from muggers.
Thieves glance at me and probably think, "illegal immigrant;
not worth the effort", presuming that my big carrier bags contain
only weird, knobbly vegetables for my 16 children.

In my hijab, shopping is also cheaper. A small minority of Muslim
traders operate a two-tier pricing system with the "one of
us" price being considerably lower than the price for Westerners.
If I want a bargain, I make sure I am "hijabbed-up".

The most amazing effect of wearing the veil is that you automatically
seem to become a member of the Muslim community and are accorded
all of the privileges and dignity of a Muslim woman. When I walk
into a Muslim shop, a man will say to me, gently, "Salaam aleikum
[peace be upon you]. How can I help you, madam?" On the bus,
Muslim men from Africa, the Middle East or the Far East will move
aside for me and say, "After you, sister."

The offices, bars and clubs of London are full of English girls
in short skirts and strappy sandals, many of them looking for love.
Women who wear the hijab, often despised by the West, actually feel
sorry for these Western women who have to harm themselves with crippling
high heels, skin-choking make-up and obsessive dieting in order
to find a man.

My Iranian friend Mona is a successful businesswoman who goes out
every day looking impeccable, with painted nails, stilettos, sharp
suits and perfect make-up. "It was just so much easier when
I was in Iran," she says. "You'd get up at nine, throw
on your big black hooded dress and jump in the car. Now, I have
to spend two or three hours getting done up every morning."

Too often, the hijab is dismissed as the preserve of Muslim fundamentalists.
But in the Christian tradition, St Paul ordered women to cover their
heads and, until the Sixties, no woman would be seen in an English
church without a hat and gloves. Many English women wore hats out
in the street or headscarves tied under their chin. Hindu and Sikh
women are still expected to cover their heads loosely for their
honour, or izzat, and Orthodox Jewish women have traditionally worn
wigs over their real hair to conceal it from men who are not their
husbands. Yet, among all these cultural groups, only Muslim women
seem to have been described as weak or oppressed on account of their

Two of the most unlikely bedfellows are the woman who wears a hijab
and the militant feminist. When women in the early Seventies began
cropping their hair short, and wearing dungarees and comfortable
shoes, they were rejecting the idea of suffering for fashion and
were refusing to take part in the desperate ritual to attract spoilt,
fussy males. Similarly, a woman in a hijab can retain her identity
without being a slave to finicky Western notions of beauty.

A particularly sad article appeared in a popular women's magazine
last week, entitled: "How to hate your body less." I showed
it to my Arab friend Malika, who shook her head and said: "In
my culture, men are so grateful when they marry a woman that they
see her as a gorgeous princess, whatever shape or size she is."

Within the hijab, Muslim women know their power and their value.
One Muslim man told me: "My wife is like a beautiful diamond.
Would you leave a precious diamond to get scratched or stolen in
the street? No, you would wrap it in velvet. And that is how the
hijab protects my wife, who is more precious to me than any jewel."

Of course, if anybody tried to remove my veil or force me to wear
it, I would react violently. I am privileged to live in a country
in which I can wear whatever I want to. Not all women are so lucky.
Personally, I have found in the hijab a kind of guardian angel.
My mother, on the other hand, claims that I wear it because I can't
be bothered to brush my hair.


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